“We often accept the love that we think we deserve. Sadly this fact appears to be most evident in moments when we lose track of what it is that we deserve. This is exactly what happened to me over a period of three years. It was me who accepted it when when we first started dating and he said: “I don’t feel like coming over”; It was me who accepted it when he sad: “You are pretty, but you do have a big nose”; It was me who accepted it when he introduced me to his friends as “a friend” whilst being in a relationship with me. It was me who accepted it when he turned his back towards me in the mornings to be able to check his social media; it was me who accepted it when he did not feel like going on a date night; it was me who accepted it when he made me feel unsure about whether I was enough; it was me who accepted feeling in doubt about whether I was the only one in his life. Notice that “it was ME who accepted it”.
The way someone else treats you is up to him or her. Whether you accept it is up to you. It was a #definemoment for me when I finally choose that I deserved more. Stop falling for someone that does not give you the love that you deserve. Remember that it is only when you start seeing your own self-worth that this will happen. Take time to learn what your worth is, it took me a year to see it. A year in which I learned to love myself, including my clumsiness, weird sense of humor, feistiness and cheerful, prominent nose.
A year in which I learned to challenge the negative thoughts about myself and along the way started to believe in myself more and more. A year in which I learned the meaning of being comfortable in my own skin. A year in which I started to grow and shine. And especially a year in which I found peace within myself and in which I learned my self-worth. Invest energy in yourself and developing your feeling of self-worth, take the time that you need and be surprised by the love that someone else, but especially you, can give yourself!”